THE TRUE PEACE
STARTS WITH OBSERVATION AND ACCEPTANCE OF OUR OWN
VIOLENCE
Abstract Book Pema Chödrön:
"To make peace in time of war"
published by La Table Ronde.
The origin of the anger, violence or war, is still at a kind of inner tension. A fact, a word, an event will raise close to our heart and our thoughts in runaway chain reaction. This inflexibility leads us to the dogma and to fundamentalism.
We are at the base, unable to we observe in these situations. However, in general, we operate in mirror image to those that are directed against all our objections.
Now it is from there that he must go: the observation of our approach allows us to choose not to take the road, not to fall into the automated system that drives our journey. This option requires the courage to face fear. Stop the mill because of these chain reactions creates a deep malaise which, if we are able to cross leads to appeasement, and opening the heart. When we recognize
bearer of what we rightly condemn in the other, we open the door to empathy. We understand while our fears, our dogma, our fundamentalism, our strength, we are all so sad that we can suffer from oppression and injustice. Both aspects are part of the same coin. And stop the spiral from one side stops the spiral of violence. According to Pema
Chödrön, patience is the antidote to aggression. It allows us not to enter the vicious circle of response to aggression. Because the response does not reduce, but amplifies the pain of the assault, it does not reduce anger.
Patience, by contrast, shifts the gaze, the automatic stop. She also refuses to be trapped by the emergency. Stopping, putting himself in touch with his feelings, we take the path of appeasement. This is not an easy path but it is beyond our own peace, for ourselves and for all. Pema
Chödrön expresses that this requires a lot of fearlessness. Putting himself in the meantime, we learn to accept deal with anger, our own, and pain that is inherent. This expectation, their refusal to use our automated systems, can cultivate patience. And there is nothing to avoid crossing this state: no shortcuts, cure, buoy.
But this ability to cross that gives us access to something else. Besides the choice becomes possible between the spiral of aggression and peace patience leads to a new look, more lucid.
By dropping our armor, by refusing to retaliate, we are led to face our vulnerability. Lucidity and face our own vulnerability, leads to a form of indulgence, even humor, to oneself, but also to others. Patience leads somehow to discover a dimension of ourselves. In discovering the home, we discover it in others, and are growing our indulgence, our goodwill towards them.
Pema Chödrön introduced the Tibetan term "Shenpi" which means a misidentified concept in the West when, at an event (criticism that we address, missteps, failure), regardless of size, we bite the bait, feeling discomfort or frustration. And if we are not aware of what happens to us, the impulse to act or react in the event, leads us into automatic behaviors. This unease and unrest that correspond to a deep insecurity. Refrain from acting may be akin to refusing to respond when itching. To achieve not get carried away by the Shenpi, Pema Chodron offers meditation, returning at the moment, the stillness in irritation, learning patience.
You can also learn to identify the Shenpi among others, and in the kindness and patience, adapt the conversation with wisdom - the so-called "prajna" - so as not to escalate and calm the game
The times we give in to the itch, are also learning a posteriori, through reflection, remembering the emotions, to reach beyond them. Pema
Chödrön defines four stages of this process: recognizing the Shenpi abstain to act, relax, and finally decided to permanently discontinue this process. It keeps our energy that way and it broadens our perspective, our consciousness.
The harsh reality of life (grief, frustration, confrontation, pain ,...) is inevitable. But this is not where it comes woe, it comes from our search to escape. Now the pain is behind many lessons: questioning, empathy for those who live like this, humility toward life. The difficulties and suffering is likely to change and transformation. The pursuit of happiness at any cost is a prison. Cross the suffering accepting, being present, provides access to inner strength. The flight response to the threat, pain, anger, we stiffens. We build walls of protection from all these situations, which enclose us, rather they release us. Learning to recognize our protection systems is the path leading to dismantle them. Meditation, the practice of patience and the ability to recognize the Shenpi are ways to get there. This learning requires training to be attentive to remain open to the difficulty in observing. To get help Pema
Chödrön presents the Buddhist notion of bodhicitta, which is the desire to get better and want the world to get better and these two things as part of a single concept. The relative bodhicitta
for kindness and attention that it is doing to itself in all dimensions, and all parts of oneself. It is an unconditional love, which does not stimulate the problematic parts of themselves, but accept them and love them without shame or guilt, but also without limit. When we run
parts of ourselves, it will force us to flee from situations that may expose those parts in front of others. In our relationships, access to a form of intimacy with another, will sooner or later reveal the less visible parts of ourselves. If they are parts we do not accept ourselves, we shall have to escape these situations. The art is then to refuse to flee to learn to love ourselves as we are. By cultivating this ability to be lucid, to love unconditionally, we learn compassion, that we learn to accept each other in what we accept at home. Knowing love someone, you become able to love the millions of people. The absolute bodhicitta
goes a step further. This is the opening of the heart, the capacity for unconditional love to the world beyond judgments and prejudices. We arrive at this level by training. Starting out our moods, then do not be fooled by them and by hosting the suffering inherent in the failure to escape; then we overcome fear and pain, and so, rising , it helps reduce the suffering in the world.
When we manage to avoid Shenpi, we accept the experience of insecurity and anger, observe our moods without asking for immediate action, we have avoided entering into an escalation. But it is also possible to accompany this with a hope that this attitude affects others who suffer the same way, experiencing compassion for them. It is even possible to do this out of position, by viewing a feeling of aversion, for example. The practice leads to that risk aversion is falling apart. It is therefore neither to escape the discomfort, or search for it but to go through, and access in this way to a new force, an expanded consciousness.
Considering that learning at the global level, and that what we experience now is the consequence of our past actions and by working on ourselves in compassion, we sow the seeds for future peace in the world. No matter how long it will, the important thing is to act now common sense. Changes made at home and abroad to create a new kind of culture.
When we do not bite the bait, and we allow a pause rather than react: we burn the seeds of aggression. At the time we open to a wider reality and work for a better world. When all our seeds of aggression will be burned, we radiate confidence, authenticity, we will be a pleasant presence. For if we love ourselves, without shame, without guilt, and move forward in safety, nurturing compassion for our neighbors, unable to blame them for what we do more blame, so nobody can feel safe in front of us. Pema
Chödrön moved, as the distance from the tension, and we cultivate compassion, simplicity. Accept what is without asking a thousand questions, and through, start doing things differently, taking part in this new culture for themselves and the planet.
Claire De Brabander
January 2009 Source: change oneself http://www.sechangersoi.be/index.htmPour Change The World
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